Are you wishing for men (or women) to notice you more often?
Notice how you look, what you’re wearing?
Even wishing that they gave you a second look? were curious to know more about you?
Are you wishing for more recognition?
Or acknowledgement of what’s special about you?
Acknowledgement of something you’ve achieved?
The other day I was hosting a webinar for my Midlife Mastermind Group and a woman in attendance told me that what bothered her most about midlife is that she feels “invisible”. I wasn’t sure what she meant, so I was curious and asked some questions. It turned out that what was bothering her was that she felt invisible to men. They weren’t paying attention to her the way they had earlier in her life.
I asked some more questions. My hunch was that it had something to do with the way she was feeling about herself. Have you noticed that when you feel great about yourself on all levels — others notice. And when you don’t feel so great about yourself, others notice that too although the way they notice that may be to ignore you.
Now I was curious about women feeling invisible at our age. I consulted several women I know and asked them whether they feel “invisible” – to my surprise most of them said “yes”. I was on to something!
My question to you is:
What Type of Attention Do You Crave?
Take a minute and be really honest with yourself.
Do you want to be visible?
Do you want to turn heads?
Do you want to influence or create change?
Do you want to help others?
Do you want to be listened to?
Do you want to be respected for your opinions or insights?
Do you want to be recognized or acknowledged for who you are or what you’ve done?
Do you want to be taken seriously?
If you feel a bit “triggered” by this don’t worry – you’re not alone!
If you’re a man reading this do you feel invisible to women at this age?
Take a minute and write me your thoughts about this as a comment here on my blog.